重新定义美

Sarah Dubbeldam ’05, a former catalog model for br和s like Target 和 Crocs, wanted to promote positive body images 和 lifestyle habits for women. She founded 亲爱的 Media, 和 flagship publication 亲爱的 magazine, 在过去的十年里，是什么导致了女性在广告和时尚摄影中的形象发生了翻天覆地的变化.

“God created us all to look different,达伯丹说. “这种对美貌的狭隘定义需要拓宽，而且 亲爱的 has been part of doing that in the culture. 我为此感到骄傲.”

今天, the wife 和 mother of two young children lives in Glendale, 她和同为企业家的丈夫生活在一起，像许多人一样兼顾着母亲和工作 达林的 读者做.

“I really enjoy my days,她说。. “他们既要从高水平上监督品牌和使命，又要平衡孩子们的很多事情.”

Calling Out Strengths

Dubbeldam来自俄勒冈州的姐妹镇，一个大约有800人的小镇，她来到CUI学习 剧院, with the intention of becoming an art director 和 building sets for movies. She then switched her major to 工作室艺术 with an emphasis in secondary education.

“I loved Concordia,她说。. “My friends 和 I had the best time. I had amazing professors, especially in the literature classes. I truly enjoyed writing 和 discovering my style 和 my voice. 这帮助我发现了自己的长处，并为我沟通和写作做好了准备.”

她是一名 写作老师 在校园里，我跑了。 track 在CUI的四年里，她学会了时间管理和“如何做到优秀”.

“It was so formative to me, 和 really positive,她说。. “I was grateful to be there 和 wanted to get everything I could out of it. I met with my professors a lot after class.”

毕业后, she took an internship at Sony Pictures, then went to an open call at a top modeling agency, 赚外快. 很快，她就成为了Crocs、Bass Pro、Kohl’s、Target等大型商店和品牌的模特. She appeared also in Super Bowl commercials 和 on billboards.

“I was considered successful in that spot, but I wasn’t happy,她说。. “I struggled with depression 和一个nxiety.”

部分原因是时尚界一些人对待女性的方式:把她们ps成适合塑料的样子, unreal version of beauty, 和 monitored closely for how they look. 她回忆起在西好莱坞的经纪公司大楼里的会议，她的模特经纪人上上下下打量她，问她这样的问题, “一个大品牌对你很感兴趣，但看起来你的大腿胖了一点. We’d like to know what your workout plan is. What’s your routine lately? Are you feeling healthy?”

“It’s just a nice way to say you look fat,” says Dubbeldam. “I was extremely thin, 和 I thought this negativity might not affect me because I was a Christian, 但是你的关注点总是在你的外表上——走进一个房间，看到其他40个和你长得一模一样的女人:5英尺9英寸(约1.54米)。, 金发、卷发、绿眼睛的女人——让我意识到我错过了我的目标，没有做足够深入的事情. It’s great to act 和 model, 但它背后的精神是消极的，让我陷入了无目的的漩涡.”

亲爱的 is the voice of a friend 和一个 mentor to those who feel alone. It’s saying, here’s a different way to think 和 live.

Transforming Fashion

她和康考迪亚大学的校友凯利(莱恩)雷德菲尔德开始梦想创造一些不同的东西, 改变女性在时尚摄影和广告中的形象，减少女性因流行文化所定义的完美外表而讨厌自己外表的附带伤害. 从汉堡包到洗衣粉，把女性过度性感化，推销给人们的是“一种对美非常狭隘的定义，这不是上帝想给我们的。,她说。.

Those conversations became 亲爱的, “an idea from God,” Dubbeldam calls it. 在他们的书页里, no one would be Photoshopped; rather the br和 would dignify a broader ideal of beauty.

达林的 Kickstarter campaign — pegged at a mere $15,作为这个融资平台上的首批女性品牌之一，她火了起来. Already blogging its vision of the world, in 2012 亲爱的 magazine launched in print. 到第4期时，它们在著名的女装店Anthropologie出售. They also obtained the h和le @darling 在Instagram 和 grew their following quickly. 他们的使命宣言(见文末)已成为广受欢迎的宣言, 和 is the vision behind all the lifestyle products they now sell.

今天, 达林的 platform reaches half a million people per week. 她们登上了该杂志的第26期，并以该品牌为基础开发了一系列生活方式产品:蜡烛, 贺卡, 谜题, 镜贴花, 和一个

“亲爱的 盒子”提供了一个 亲爱的 在盒子里的晚餐体验，有产品、dsamco和内容，可以创造有意义的聚会.

Just as important, from day one, 亲爱的 set a new st和ard for representing women. Dubbeldam预定了她在业内认识的模特，但没有对照片进行润色. She also created an atmosphere of respect.

“I knew what it was like to go in 和 be photographed,她说。. “I was going to talk to them, have our team be loving to them, to see them for more than how they look. It was really redemptive.”

亲爱的 还拒绝与过度性感化或推广抗衰老产品的品牌合作. Not only that, but every issue of 亲爱的 可以放在咖啡桌上随便翻看，而不会有道德风险吗.

Dubbeldam说:“这对孩子来说是安全的，我们是业内唯一一家这样的杂志。. 实现这一愿景的勇气部分来自她的父母，他们也是企业家.

“我的父母支持我成为一个坚强、独立的思考者，”杜贝尔丹说. “I always see the world on a macro level: ‘Wow, these systems are really broken or this whole industry needs a change,’ 和 seek to find hopeful solutions. 我读过关于威廉·威尔伯福斯和其他人的书，他们改变了事物的运行方式. It’s actually possible. It takes one person 和 others get on board. I was inspired by that idea.”

The lens of everything we produce is to honor God 和 his view of women.

这么多年来， 亲爱的 成为了那些在生活中需要强有力声音的女性的代理导师. 

“亲爱的 是那些感到孤独的人的朋友和导师的声音。.

“它在说，在一个真正黑暗的世界里，有一种不同的思考和生活方式. For a lot of girls, we’re like their mom or guidance counselor. 他们在寻找答案，我们有希望和视角在他们需要的地方与他们见面.”

Joanna Gaines was the featured interview in 达林的 latest issue, 和 Vogue Greece recently produced its first unretouched cover. 莎拉和他们的编辑进行了友好的交流，以纪念这个重要的时刻. 大型百货公司也选择停止对商品目录和海报模型进行润饰.

“看到我们的文化是如何被打破的，以及女性和女性气质在我们的文化中是如何受到损害的，莎拉能够平衡这种悲伤, with hope 和一个 vision for how that can meaningfully improve,” says Virginia Hawkins, Dubbeldam’s business partner 和 亲爱的 媒体的首席运营官. “She’s not a h和-wringer. 她是一个创造者，一个有远见的人，她带着希望领导别人加入她的使命.”

Sarah 和 her husb和, 史蒂夫, 拥有两家公司，并热衷于基督徒创业，以一种救赎的方式影响文化. 

“It takes a lot of grit 和 knowing what your passion is, 和 doing it for the right reasons,达伯丹说. 

Faith underlies her mission, in life 和 with 亲爱的. “I live my life following Jesus 和 the Word. That dictates all my decisions 和 perspectives,她说。. “You won’t find heavy-h和ed Christian language [in 亲爱的 杂志]，但我们制作的所有东西都是为了尊重上帝和他对女性的看法. 我们相信你可以在谦虚的同时做到百分之百的时尚和美丽, 受人尊敬的, 和 strong at the same time.” 

To check out 达林的 products, content, 和 events, visit www.darlingmagazine.org 和 @darling 在Instagram.

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亲爱的, you are a work of art.
You have the ability to fully display beauty apart from vanity, influence apart from manipulation, style apart from materialism, kindness apart from passivity, strength apart from competition & dignity without degradation.
你是一个催化剂，通过你的机智、智慧和性格来改变你周围的世界 & courage—all the while creating beauty & 体现爱.
You are not only interesting, 但原, not only good enough, but exceptional—not just here, but here for a purpose.